. Synchronous Timing 04/07 07/07 .

So, it took me 7 years, give or take, to let you in, on the 4/4/14.  And all the repeated numbers surrounding this. But as with all moments connected to you, I've learnt not to revel too quickly. (It's 3:33am and my battery % is 55 haha). I iust wish I knew how to handle this better.

. Some advice can be gleaned from this .

via http://www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/magazine/article3811080.ece

My daughter is about to turn 13 and I’ve been smoking a lot recently, and so – in the wee small hours, when my lungs feel like there’s a small mouse inside them, scratching to get out – I’ve thought about writing her one of those “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You To Consult As You Continue Your Now Motherless Life” letters. Here’s the first draft. Might tweak it a bit later. When I’ve had another fag.
“Dear Lizzie. Hello, it’s Mummy. I’m dead. Sorry about that. I hope the funeral was good – did Daddy play Don’t Stop Me Now by Queen when my coffin went into the cremator? I hope everyone sang along and did air guitar, as I stipulated. And wore the stick-on Freddie Mercury moustaches, as I ordered in the ‘My Funeral Plan’ document that’s been pinned on the fridge since 2008, when I had that extremely self-pitying cold.
“Look – here are a couple of things I’ve learnt on the way that you might find useful in the coming years. It’s not an exhaustive list, but it’s a good start. Also, I’ve left you loads of life-insurance money – so go hog wild on eBay on those second-hand vintage dresses you like. You have always looked beautiful in them. You have always looked beautiful.
“The main thing is just to try to be nice. You already are – so lovely I burst, darling – and so I want you to hang on to that and never let it go. Keep slowly turning it up, like a dimmer switch, whenever you can. Just resolve to shine, constantly and steadily, like a warm lamp in the corner, and people will want to move towards you in order to feel happy, and to read things more clearly. You will be bright and constant in a world of dark and flux, and this will save you the anxiety of other, ultimately less satisfying things like ‘being cool’, ‘being more successful than everyone else’ and ‘being very thin’.
“Second, always remember that, nine times out of ten, you probably aren’t having a full-on nervous breakdown – you just need a cup of tea and a biscuit. You’d be amazed how easily and repeatedly you can confuse the two. Get a big biscuit tin.
“Three – always pick up worms off the pavement and put them on the grass. They’re having a bad day, and they’re good for… the earth or something (ask Daddy more about this; am a bit sketchy).
“Four: choose your friends because you feel most like yourself around them, because the jokes are easy and you feel like you’re in your best outfit when you’re with them, even though you’re just in a T-shirt. Never love someone whom you think you need to mend – or who makes you feel like you should be mended. There are boys out there who look for shining girls; they will stand next to you and say quiet things in your ear that only you can hear and that will slowly drain the joy out of your heart. The books about vampires are true, baby. Drive a stake through their hearts and run away.
“Stay at peace with your body. While it’s healthy, never think of it as a problem or a failure. Pat your legs occasionally and thank them for being able to run. Put your hands on your belly and enjoy how soft and warm you are – marvel over the world turning over within, the brilliant meat clockwork, as I did when you were inside me and I dreamt of you every night.
“Whenever you can’t think of something to say in a conversation, ask people questions instead. Even if you’re next to a man who collects pre-Seventies screws and bolts, you will probably never have another opportunity to find out so much about pre-Seventies screws and bolts, and you never know when it will be useful.
“This segues into the next tip: life divides into AMAZING ENJOYABLE TIMES and APPALLING EXPERIENCES THAT WILL MAKE FUTURE AMAZING ANECDOTES. However awful, you can get through any experience if you imagine yourself, in the future, telling your friends about it as they scream, with increasing disbelief, ‘NO! NO!’ Even when Jesus was on the cross, I bet He was thinking, ‘When I rise in three days, the disciples aren’t going to believe this when I tell them about it.’
“Babyiest, see as many sunrises and sunsets as you can. Run across roads to smell fat roses. Always believe you can change the world – even if it’s only a tiny bit, because every tiny bit needed someone who changed it. Think of yourself as a silver rocket – use loud music as your fuel; books like maps and co-ordinates for how to get there. Host extravagantly, love constantly, dance in comfortable shoes, talk to Daddy and Nancy about me every day and never, ever start smoking. It’s like buying a fun baby dragon that will grow and eventually burn down your f***ing house.
“Love, Mummy.”

. Words to remember and live by .

I have been lucky to come across these 3 articles tonight in a short span of time and this post will make it easier for me to find them when I need reminding. The first is about soul purpose. The second inspires small actions to make the world better. The third is about marriage, but most of the points I feel are applicable to all relationships, and all the "your wife"s should be substituted with "your partner". And the last is about living and being alive.

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How do you discover your SOUL PURPOSE?

Your SOUL PURPOSE is that driving mission you want to live, that passion you want to feel, that contribution you want to make and that legacy you want to leave.

There's sometimes an illusion that we buy into that says we don't know our purpose, or we're not ready for it, or worst of all, we don't have one... we wait and hope for some magical sign or heavenly messenger to finally tell us what it is and that we are ready to live it.

I assure you, You DO have a purpose and it's clues have been around you all the time, and in discovering and living in alignment of that purpose you will feel a joy and energy for life that you cannot experience in any other way.

It's almost as if it's hidden in the fog, right in front of us, waiting for us all the time to FIND and to CLAIM it, to live it fully and unapologetically.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” - Howard Thurman

When you answer these questions, the fog begins to clear and we see clearly what our heart and soul is begging us to pursue.

1) WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT?
What makes my heart SING? What do I love to do when I have nothing to do? What fills me up and brings me JOY? What do I do where I lose track of time? What dreams do I have? What would I be willing to FIGHT for?

2) WHAT TALENTS or GIFTS DO YOU HAVE?
What comes easily to me that may be hard for others? What talents have I worked to develop? What seems to flow naturally from me?

3) WHO DO YOU FEEL DRAWN TO SERVE?
Who do I feel a desire to help? What causes or charities do I feel compelled to support? What suffering do I want to relieve? What type of advice do people come to me for?

4) WHAT PROBLEMS HAVE YOU OVERCOME?
Often our 'mess' becomes our 'message'. What are the greatest trials I have faced in my life? What have I learned in going through that? How can I help others who are going through similar challenges?

5) WHAT WOULD STRETCH, INSPIRE, and MOTIVATE YOU to be the very best ?
What books do I love to read? What do I love to study? What challenges do I enjoy? What are goals that scare and excite me?

In the end, as I have thought about it... I believe WE ALL have the same 3 CORE FOUNDATIONS to OUR SOUL PURPOSE.

We are here to HAVE JOY.

We are here to CONTRIBUTE to others.

We are here to GROW.

Anything that fulfills those for you is your SOUL PURPOSE.

The beautiful thing is that you can live your purpose today, and your purpose will EVOLVE as you do. It will continue to change. It will be different in 5 years than it is now, so just start with where you are at today.

In the pursuit of this purpose lies the deepest fulfillment and meaning of life.

For me, I have discovered My SOUL PURPOSE is to MENTOR others to AWAKEN to their divine authentic power, to DISCOVER their Soul Purpose, to STAND as CONSCIOUS CREATORS, and to MAKE MONEY while doing what they LOVE.

I live my purpose through the seminars, speeches, and mentoring programs I create. I live that purpose through the messages I share. I live that purpose through the choices I make everyday. That purpose is as much a part of me as the blood that courses through my veins.

My invitation for you is to simply look around you today, and keep asking these questions. GOD has given you your purpose for a reason... NOW is the time to live it more fully.

You have one life to live, LIVE BIG!

Gerald Rogers

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2. via https://medium.com/change-i-want-to-see/73e35a32c7de

Being The Change You Want to See

What it means to live the way you want the world to be

In the middle of a conversation, my friend remarked, “I am really impressed with what Adrianna is doing with the food thing.” His remark threw me off the moment he said it, because he doesn’t know Adrianna personally, except by virtue of my excessive Facebook shares. Also, I thought nobody paid attention to that ‘food thing’ I shared on Facebook, a couple of days ago.

That ‘food thing’, is one of the many initiatives spearheaded by a dear friend of mine, Adrianna Tan. Somehow between all her caffeine-induced adrenalin and alcohol-induced stupor, she hatches schemes like “Culture Kitchen”, which aims to bring immigrant communities closer to the local culture through food and art.

When Adrianna comes up with ideas like that, I only take her half seriously, because she tries to do a thousand things at one time in between her career and frequent travels. Then, one day a photo like this creeps up on my Facebook feed:

The success of the first Culture Kitchen, with a mixed array of cultures bonding over food. Photo by Kevin Lee.

And there I am, falling in intellectual love with Adrianna all over again. I am incredibly proud of her as a fellow Singaporean, as a friend, as a partner-in-crime with all the other initiatives we try to spearhead.

She explains why with her own writing:

I can, however, build communities and movements. This is one of the things I know I can do well, and I want to lend my technological and organisational skills to building a movement which will stand up for a Singapore which includes. The Singapore we want to see. While I will continue to call out the xenophobes every time they emerge from the hills, I will also spend twice as much time on helping to create a counter movement which is positive in nature. I don’t have an ROI, I don’t have an end goal, I just want to bring people together. – Why I’m Hosting Culture Kitchen

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When I first made connections.sg, I was asked for my ‘real agenda’ or ‘how are you going to monetize’. People find it hard to believe when I say I don’t have an agenda, except I think and believe a simple step forward can make things better.

I am growing incredibly serious and passionate about wanting to realize my ideals and beliefs and yet plenty of times I question my own motivations myself. Why am I doing this? Why is it important that I go around trying to explain my thoughts to anybody who would listen to me?

I look at what Adrianna is doing, eight thousand miles across the world and I am reminded why.

It does not matter what people think or if they would understand. If they question or if they are skeptical. In this game called life, we can only do our very own individual best and hope that we have the blessing to find other partners-in-crime for the things we care about. Even if we don’t, we have to forge this lonely path ourselves anyway.

If we think humanity can be better, then let’s try to be better humans. If I want people to write more, then I will attempt to write more myself. If I think small efforts are paramount to a ripple of positive effects, then let me reflect that in my own little actions. If I wish for people to make better choices in the grand scheme of trying to forward humanity, I need to be exceptionally conscious of those choices myself.

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Human beings are fundamentally social creatures. Modern society has proven that we could make other people emulate materialistic behavior by priding material success.

My sincere question is, could we make people emulate compassionate and empathetic behavior by showing how much good and joy we can all personally derive from it?

It makes people around you think if you demonstrate an unexpected behavior. It makes me sad to even type this that showing kindness, grace and generosity is considered to be unexpected. You no longer question when your friend buys a beautiful expensive car, but you question someone’s agenda when they try to do good.

Why?

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I exchanged a few texts with Adrianna right after the event, she tells me she’s exhausted but she ‘loves people and the world’.

I felt her joy eight thousand miles across the world, I felt my own joy because I understood how much it meant to her and I am made to feel sane for wanting to love people and the world. For all the potentially crazy things I may attempt to do later on in my own life, in order to show how much I can love people and the world.

In this era of cynicism and skepticism, I am most grateful for the Adrianna Tans in this world. The ones who will make things happen despite all the questions and impossibilities.

She knows she needs to do these things because she wouldn’t be able to live with herself otherwise. In other words, she is doing it because she ‘loves people and the world’, but fundamentally she needs to do it for herself.

It is very much the same for me. Perhaps on my deathbed my attempts to better this world the way I envision it can be, would be ultimately futile. Would it matter though?

For I would be able to take my last breath in peace, knowing that I have exhausted and gave my entire self to this world, rather than wondering if I could have done more, if miracles would happen if I had tried doing them.

And this is what it means to be the change you want to see.

You simply be.

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3.
Marriage Advice via Gerald Rogers

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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My 30 Things at 30. ~ Nadia Mah

Via elephant journal on Mar 28, 2013

Source: relevantmagazine.com via Kaylan on Pinterest

I woke up on my 30th birthday feeling odd, but very happy.

I realized that for the first time in years, I was embracing my birthday rather than (un)welcoming it with anxiety.
More than previous birthdays, I was aware of how lucky I was to age with the people, love and stories I had in my life. Gratitude replaced angst. Confidence replaced fear. It was definitely the best way to celebrate a milestone birthday.

“My 30 Things at 30″ is a reflection of some of the core philosophies I live by—all of which bring me joy and light.

1. When you feel like no one understands, find solace in music. It seems there is always at least one song that can fill a part of the void in your heart.
2. Whenever possible, leave your city and explore somewhere new. It makes home that much better to come back to. Or maybe you learn that you’ve outgrown your home, which is good too.
3. Those mornings when you wake up wondering “Why am I still here, doing the same thing?” will eventually propel you to make a change. The less you resist that push, and the faster you act on it, the wiser.
4. I often wonder why people are so scared of being lost, on the road and in life. It’s kind of a cool feeling. Let it surprise you with the unexpected. Don’t be scared unless you feel like you’ll be lost forever. Then it’s time to craft a road map.

5. Hang out with small people regularly. Kids are best at reminding you to slow life down, to speak more clearly, and to notice the details—like shoelaces, crumbs and sticky fingers.

6. If you’re ever with someone who makes you wonder “why” instead of “how” you are with them, it means you’re with the wrong person.
7. Being with the right person feels effortless because all actions suddenly become motivated by love, rather than obligation.
8. It’s often the case you don’t understand how much your own parents sacrificed and compromised until you become a parent yourself. The earlier you realize this, the earlier you can truly learn to appreciate your parents as an individual and as a unit.
9. The first time you have to give your parents advice is weird. It’s even weirder when they listen. It really sucks when they don’t.
10. Sometimes I look at my best friends and wonder if I would ever get anywhere in life without them. I don’t think I would ever be strong or brave enough to do it alone.
11. Figure out what sort of books intrigue you, then read regularly.
12. Figure out what sort of organizations move you, then volunteer regularly.
13. When something dumb or unfair happens, either do something about it or learn to laugh it off as soon as possible. Alternatively, be proactive about preventing dumb things from happening.

14. The best gift you can give yourself is to learn to feel comfortable in your own skin. Build your confidence up slowly and surely—it helps to grow up with glasses and braces.

15. Being cool is relative to being lame. Don’t be so cool that you become lame.
16. Get your own life. Spend some quality and dedicated time developing your own interests and passions. The goal of course is to turn passion into living, which is challenging but worth trying.
17. I borrowed this one, and am trying to actively apply it to my life: “Don’t treat your stomach like a garbage can.” (It has been challenging but very satisfying so far.)
18. Be gentle with people you meet. You have yet to learn what they are about, or why they are the way they are.
19. Shower those you love with lots of affection; it’s the sweetest thing. Babies thrive off affection. I believe adults do too.
20. Make it a habit to say “thank you” in a way that ensures the other person really understands. Feeling appreciated inspires people to do great things.
21. Seeing the beauty in others, mirror the beauty that exist in yourself.
22. Have a few signature dishes you can cook up in the kitchen. There’s nothing more satisfying than feeding your friends and family.
23. Your age and body may grow older, but let your heart and soul remain forever young.
24. It’s impossible to know everything, so seek guidance from the infinite resources made available around you. Start by asking the first question.
25. Holding onto grudges is really silly—it’s giving someone power to have a negative effect on you longer than necessary.

26. I hate when I hear someone say: “You laugh too loud.” Laughing is the most wonderful sound in the world. It should be celebrated.

27. Rad. Intelligent. Beautiful. Happy. Be any or all of those things, and make it infectious.
28. Act the fool. It’s so much fun.
29. The worse thing is not lying to someone else. It’s lying to yourself.
30. Go ahead, live by any philosophy you want. Just live it, now.

Nadia Mah dreams to one day be the best selling author of children books. For now, she is building a career in marketing, traveling as often as possible, and hosting (scrumptious) dinner parties.

 

. Good habits, Useful articles and Raving about Richard Branson #fangirlmoment .

I love Facebook because of the people I have as friends and the posts they make. Ignoring the ever-present idiocy in large numbers of people, there have actually been quite a few gems of late that have led to other gems (could also be my increased attention to the latter and decreased attention to the former. Yay LoA!). One of the latter gems is a post on how to stop procrastinating. This one's a 2-minute rule. The basic premise, as reworded by a commenter of the article, is instead of thinking of tasks in their entirety and enormity, think about how you can at least do 2 minutes worth of it.
Like, want to pick up running? The guy says put on your shoes and step out the door every Mon, Wed, Fri. That would take 2 mins and you'll just turn it into more. And on the same topic of exercising... I've always known the science of and why exercising keeps you healthy and happy. But my recent efforts to get and keep fit have really driven the point home for me. I realise that when I go a few days without some form of physical exertion, the crazy moods come back. Mildly scary and pretty interesting. I'd always said I wanted to be fit. Seems my body/brain is giving me such strong impetus to do so. Don't exercise and get depressed.

Anyway, back to the post. This is the link. http://jamesclear.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating
This post is worth keeping and rereading every once in a while. It's also worth noting that the comments in the posts are good reads too.

The post that linked me to the one above is about one of my favourite people whom I look up to with a lot of respect and admiration. I hardly have heroes. This guy, I'm a fan. One of the things I admire about him is his simple philosophy of just do it. Not ready? Not sure? Don't care, just start. He flows and wields with skill, the power that creates worlds. But my favourite thing about him is just how much he enjoys life and the clarity with which he sees and feels how life is supposed to truly be lived; with joyous, juicy, delicious delight and exuberance. Richard Branson. Best dude in the world.

http://jamesclear.quora.com/Successful-People-Start-Before-They-Feel-Ready

. Good words to live by .

Go on hikes in forests, canyons and mountains, go fishing, research wildlife, and get out of city Life if you can. Surround yourself with good friends who care about your future. Fall in love with someone. Get your heart broken. And then move on and fall in love again. Breathe life every day like it is your first. Find something that you love to do and never stop doing that thing unless you find something else you love more. Don’t blame others for their mistakes. It makes you weak. You are a strong man who does not need to be weighted down by people who only complain and say negative things. Speak with conviction and believe in yourself because your personal confidence is just as important as your education.

 Andrew Pochter

When you bask and appreciate and love life AROUND the things that aren't perfect for you in every moment,
so that you let what IS working be the basis of the reason you offer your
vibration,then what happens is that you are frequently in the vortex where the accommodation of all who are involved.
We're not kidding you about this.
You can have everything you want without depriving anyone else of anything, because you live in a balanced enough Universe that everything that you want is easily accomodateable by those who surround your object of attention.
But unless you get in the vortex where who you really are and what you
really want is, you will not see the path. You will not be there at the
right time. You will not be a vibrational match to the unfolding that
allows the unfolding to give you what you want.
When you let this Vibrational Reality play a bigger role in the vibration
that is you, what happens is, you match up, not just with the Source YOU who you have helped become, but you match up with all the circumstances and events that have already been assembled.
We want to say to you that in this vortex of creation that have already been assembled, all the cooperative components have already been assembled. The cooperative components for the absolute fulfillment of everything you've asked for, as far as you have been able to ask.
The question we want to help you ask and answer is: Are you a compatible component to your own desires?
And if you are ornery, the answer is NO!
If you are worried, the answer is NO!
If you are overwhelmed, the answer is NO!
You've got to be in the vicinity of hope and up - hope, belief, love,
knowing, joy. You've got to be in the vicinity of that to really be in the
vortex where what looks like magic to those outside the vortex is happening.
It's not magic, it's natural!
It's not magic, it's LIFE!
It's what LAW says it must be.
1/9/10 San Diego
ABRAHAM-HICKS

"and i thought i'd add....it is ok to be where you currently are. that it's ok to not be in those super positive emotions and its ok always always ok to be wherever u are as long as u know that u're always rising."

" i just wanted to say
those films/movies/plays/events that need to be directed and created are desiring you. i don't know why but something tells me to tell u not to chase after desires u feel are out of your reach cos the ones that are suited to you are chasing after you. that you need to just BE.
i think our ibs are sending us a msg now. hoho"

. Reminder .

Looking through the history of a conversation between a dear friend and myself and saw this snippet I posted. I think I need this reminder again. It is relevant and it is beautiful. But most importantly, it is another foothold to climbing back up to Remembering and Being ME again.

What you are wanting to do is influence someone into the Vortex but all
you can do is get in there yourself.
You cannot influence someone in the Vortex from outside the Vortex and
when more people come to understand that there will be a lot more miracles going on, you see.
Think about it from your own perspective just for a moment. Imagine that you are the one who is sick and someone is holding you as their object of attention and they so know everything. They know, they know you are sick but they know you are asking for wellness in a stronger way than you ever did before and they are fixated upon your wellness and celebrating the wellness result already. And now they’re
looking at you but they’re knowing, they’re knowing you here. Think how that would feel to you. Think how that would feel.
Now, have someone walk in who sees you and is worried about you. And is playing stupid games with you to try and distract you from your worry. You get a sense of what we are talking about?
In other words, feel how it feels when someone knows your strength or
when someone knows your weakness. You ever have anyone criticize you? How does it feel? How does it feel when someone focuses upon some lack in you and gives it your undivided attention? You feel the diminishment of their gaze, you see. And think about how it
feels when someone looks at you and just knows your value, just knows it, you see. But you got to practice knowing it.
Most people only know what they observe, so well children make them feel one way and sick children make them feel another, and what this child is saying to you, the whole reason for this experience, this powerful teacher coming forth, is to say, you gotta find a way of looking at me that makes you feel good and don’t ask me to be it first. So, if you have access to this child where you could have a conversation, what you would say, hey thanks for waking me up.
I was looking at you like you are instead of like you REALLY are.
Chicago 2009, CD No. 4, Track 6, 2:36 - end

I am truly thankful for this relationship I have with this dear friend of mine.  Two friends that I have with birthdays on the same date. One wonderfully darling, the other a chronic and throbbing bitterness derived from brief (very), intense (somewhat) bouts of sweetness. Yet both have been serving the same purpose of growth and Remembering. It will be nice to one day not need the bitter. It would be really nice. Because I wonder about the vibes I put out on days where my psyche is a little weaker and when I'm caught off-guard. But on better days, it provides fuel to strive for improvement, betterment, even if only for distraction.

I will eventually find my way out of this cloud for good and I will once again reclaim my light and once again be clear enough to be a conduit for Source wisdom to shine through for others and myself, to help illuminate other people's light switches so they can reclaim their light too.
And this whole episode will serve as more fuel for a brighter light.

. The Search For Passion .

What is the work you can't not do?

How To Find And Do Work You Love: Scott Dinsmore at TEDxGoldenGatePark

. Life Musings .

It's tough to be a parent of a young child weak with the flu. But I believe it's tougher to be an adult child of a parent weak with the flu.
As the parent, you know your young child will only get stronger as the years go by and these bouts of weakness will get less and less.
As the adult child, you know these bouts will not get less and less.

Sitting here, listening to my 62 (and 2 days!) year old mum trying to sleep while wracked with coughs, I can't help but feel a little blue and perhaps a little melodramatic.

This, to me, is the worst thing about growing up.

Knowing mortality.

Whenever I look back
On the best days of my life
I think I saw them all on T.V.
I am so homesick now for
Someone that I never knew
I am so homesick now for
Someplace I will never be

Time won't let me go
Time won't let me go
If I could do it all again
I'd go back and change -->everything
But time won't let me go

I never had a 'Summer of 69'
Never had a Cherry Valance of my own
All these precious moments
You promised me would come in time
So where was I when I missed mine?

Time won't let me go
Time won't let me go
If you gave me back those years
I'd do it all better I swear
Time won't let me go

If I could go back once again
I would change everything, yeah
If I could go back once again
I'd do it all so much better

Time won't let me go
Time won't let me go
If I could do it all again
I'd go back and change -->everything
But you won't ever let me go


oh well

. what i love about her .

for mother's day, mother's mother's day.

her amusing quirks
her insane lvls of vanity...

• having a mirror by her side at the hospice to make sure she always looked pretty...even at the age of 93.
• wanting to get plastic surgery to laser off her liver spots on her face...since forever...up till now.
• insisting my mum buy the correct compact powder for her...my last memory of this was when she was about 80 plus.

her obsession with jewellery and shopping which i totally inherited
her long-lasting youth...even at 80 plus she used to say "Next time when I'm old......"
her shy smile when u wanna take a picture of her
how she told me not to make her wait so long and to come back quickly when i was leaving after my visit home during my summer break
how she's always so particular and fussy about her food taste and water temperature
and her da pi ku!
her feistiness
how she walks like a 2 or 3 yr old toddler...upright, belly out, legs lifted high
her amazing talents as a domestic goddess....her crochet skills which she never managed to impart to me cos we just couldn't understand each other....her unbelievable cooking skills, her beadwork (never got to see but heard of)
her strength and resilience through her growing up years, her marriage, everything...
her stubbornness

her grumpiness

her over-frugality/hoarders obsession...like bugging my mum, when i was young to keep away most of my underwear and only leave out a few cos it's not good to let a child have so much choice...lol

her bugging me for the longest time that i should have my hair cut really short. that little girls look much better with short hair....until she realised i was as stubborn as she was.

her love for us even though she complains a lot, nitpicks a lot, could be super unreasonable...but she loves us

Her apt, CNY 2008, pottering right before the arrival of the hoi polloi

Lim Cheng Kheng, born 4-12-1917, crossed over 17-1-2012.
Dearly missed and deeply loved, every single fucking day.

An update, 8 April 2013:
When I think about her, I think about her strength, her crazy talents, and her humility. I think about the pain she went through, blind to the realisation of her Greatness, her beauty. I think about her big heart, her love, her self-sacrifice and caring; and the little child inside her just crying out for love and recognition; and the cancerous bitterness, indignation and self-loathing that prevented her from receiving what she deserved....all that love...all that recognition... which were well and truly present....not from all, but from some. At least till the last few weeks of her life. I'm glad she felt it. I'm glad she realised. I'm glad she was willing to receive. And I'm glad she afforded me the opportunity to witness her miracle, to share so deeply, to be a part of her last few moments...., And above all, to choose me, to share; between the both of us, that very last moment.

Dearly missed and deeply loved, with immense gratitude and the highest respect, every single fucking day.